The Man's Guide to Women By John Gottman, Julie Schwartz Gottman, Douglas Abrams - Notes

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Deepak Shukla’s Notes On The Man's Guide to Women By John Gottman, Julie Schwartz Gottman, Douglas Abrams - Notes: Hey guys, I finished reading this book on the 10th January 2021. Here’s a synopsis of the book I grabbed from Amazon: “A great "philosopher" once said, "Trying to understand women is like trying to smell the color nine." But the fact is, men can understand women to their great benefit. All they need is the right teacher. And, arguably, there is no better teacher than John Gottman, PhD, a world-renowned relationships researcher and author of the best-selling 7 Principles of Making Marriage Work.” And here are my actual notes I took whilst I was listening to this on Audible:

3 powerful questions to ask

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What do you need?
What are you concerned about?
What are you feeling?

Taking a break 2nd strategy
Breathing and count to 10 self soothing for reducing flooding
Diffuse physiological arousal also a problem for men (DPA)
Emotional flooding is problem for men
Criticism, defensiveness, contempt or stonewalling
Have to reduce heartrate in a conflict
Cause of women's anger

Powerlessness.
Injustice and
the irresponsibility of others

Long before get into bed can create anticipation of possibility
Physical touch should be just as varied as stimulating conversation
Most boring men have set routine

Step 1: Kiss the lips
Step 2: Touch the breasts
Step 3: Touch the clitoris
Step 4: Insert the penis

Sensual touch is often light and sensitive
When women bares her neck it's a major sign of interest
Kissing neck and nape of neck particularly intimate
Lips and tongue important with kissing her all over
Creating novelty (it's different very often) is important
Men like wetter kisses than women do
Few things more intense than gazing into a women's eyes
Her voluptuous soul
Stroke a women until she's ready or one of you will get hurt
Women has various spots. G spot A spot U spot
She needs to feel emotionally and physically safe and connected with you in order to feel aroused and experience pleasure
Women's mind is her most powerful erogoneous zone
There is not a single part of a women's body that is not an erogenous zone if touched in the right way
Take the time to find out what feels good to her and what gives her pleasure
A hero in the bedroom knows this his pleasure comes from her pleasure
To truly make love to a woman you have to make love to her whole body