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    Quora Chronicles: What can people start doing now that will help them a lot in about five years?

    December 19, 2017by Deepak Shukla
    Quora Chronicles: What can people start doing now that will help them a lot in about five years?
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    By Deepak Shukla
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      This is how you can change your life in 3-6 months of self learning aggressively. And then for the rest of your life casually. (All from personal experience) On relationships:
    • Read
      • Men are from Mars, Women are From Venus
      • The five love languages
      • Why Men Don't Listen and Women Can't Read Maps
      • These alone will save you around 2 years of problems
    • Listen more, with your mind. She'll notice
    • Appreciate they way she is - and show her you do
    • Little gestures of love (e.g. buying her her favourite chocolate bar and leave it under the pillow after a hard day at work) are far more romantic than overblown/romantic cliches/gestures
    • Compliment her - in front of other people. It's an amazing feeling for her
    • Look at her when she isn't watching. She will feel it
    • Document her favourite things, quirks, what she mentions she likes, ANYTHING positive. Create calendar reminders every 2-4 weeks to randomly surprise her on the basis of what she said. This is an ongoing list.
    On sex
    • Make sex varied, not perfunctory
    • Pleasure her first. Not the other way around
    • Read 'She Comes First'. Will pay you back forever
    • Sex isn't missionary position as hard as you can. Break that mindset
    On cooking:
    • Ask your mum to show your how to cook your favourite meal.
      • Then her favourite meal
    • Cook this for your girlfriend
    • Try follow a recipe. Use Hello Fresh if you want to make it easy to begin with
    • Borrow the cooking expertise of friends that cook - learn how to cook their favourite meals
    • Learn from your girlfriend
    • Cooking well will pay you back forever when you cook for  friends, the woman you date, and the woman you'll love
    On your career:
    • Read:
      • How to Think Like a CEO
      • How to Win Friends and Influence People
      • Lynchpin
    • Learn:
      • Excel v. well (VBA lookup/Index/Match/3D Sum/$/&/etc
      • Powerpoint v. well
      • Word v. well
        • They will all ALWAYS pay you back and advance your career
    • Form allegiances with rising stars, networking masters and some senior folk
      • One day you'll need it
    • Learn from those that have excelled
      • Observe, Learn, Integrate, Apply, Surpass him/her
    • Work is 60% about doing the work well and 40% playing the politics game
      • Do both to the best of your ability
    • Document your wins
      • When it comes to salary review/appraisals/job offers you'll be happy you did this
    For some resume advice you can check this out. On startup:
    • Read
      • The Four Hour Work Week
      • The Personal MBA
      • Rich Dad Poor Dad
      • Lean Startup
    • Execution matters more
      • There are words, deeds, and then there is action
    • Build the startup as much as can ALONE
      • Then find the team. What you've already built will improve the stock of people that want to work with you
    • Focus on sales/pre-sales i.e. validation
      • Everything else is fluff. This is the acid test
    For more thoughts on this see here. On health
    • HIT it
      • High intensity training (140-180 HR) is the only one worth doing
      • You'll speed up your metabolism, burn fat quicker, get leaner stronger healthier
    • Do it
      • Start small if you have to. But you never need to do much more than even 15 minutes a day to see results
    • If it isn't hurting. It isn't working
      • If you're aren't wheezing/heaving/barely breathing. It's not effective
    • Need motivation?
      • Eat in front of the mirror. Naked
    On personal growth
    • Read
      • The God Delusion
      • A Short History of Nearly Everything
      • Freakonomics
      • Pick some diverse topics that you like. Read them
    • Spend time around interesting people
      • Dancers, actors, musicians, business owners, sportsmen. But people with a clearly defined PASSION
      • You will learn so much from them
    • Learn a language
      • When you can
      • You can combine one of the above with this
        • e.g. get a foreign girlfriend (is how I did it)
    • Make time to travel
      • The world is beautiful you'll learn so much
      • You'll also be forced to talk to strangers
      • You can combine this with other goals
        • e.g. I only run marathons in new cities or countries. So far 18 different cities in 10 countries
    On happiness
    • Make time for people you love
      • Friends, family etc
    • Laugh. More. It's an amazing medicine
    • Follow the health section. It cures so so many bad things (depression, anxiety, body image issues etc)
    • Give back
      • Help a family member, donate to a charity that means something to you, volunteer
        • Whatever it is - it has to be meaningful to you
    Overall
    • There is only 'f*ck yes' or 'hell no'
      • Either do things with commitment or leave it for later or leave it altogether
    • Be reliable
      • To yourself. And then to others
    • Find what you love and the 'working hard' will come with it
      • And whilst you're finding it. Work hard anyway
    • No matter how sh*t your life is or difficult
      • e.g. You're blind. Have no legs. Are quadriplegic. Remember - there are no excuses.
    This life. It's on you. Last thoughts Well actually I have more of them. I've had the fortune of living an unusual life so far. To find out more see here.   This answer was taken from Deepak Shukla's Quora
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