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How to Deal With Business Conflict?

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Hey guys,

It’s day 23, and the time is:

Really late start to this blog.

I actually woke up at around 630am. The whole week, I’ve been going to bed late (i.e 1030pm more or less) and have been running on less sleep than I would like.

Yesterday was no different, but with Saturday upon us, I decided I would sleep in a little longer.

I’d love to say I feel better for it, but with the Coronavirus, I’m in two minds as to whether I should go and sit in the local hotel to work from where I normally do.

So alas:

I’m sat here in my hat lol.

Furthermore, I’ve spent the last hour being threatened by someone via a Whatsapp chat about him being prepared to ‘fuck me’ if I don’t pay him.

That’s completely screwed with my usual morning karma as you can imagine :p

A couple of things happened in a short sequence:

My partner is worried for her family in Italy, who are totally self-isolating, so it feels like we should be following suit. Switching to my powerful routine in the mornings of getting to the hotel and getting on with work immediately is hard.
It doesn’t feel right being sat in my living room working – yesterday, if you recall, was slower as well
My later-than-usual’ start was noticed by a couple of people:

My Facebook wall:

Whilst on WhatsApp I’ve got this going on:

Now back to Facebook:

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My start to the morning has been far from productive.

It’s put me in a terrible mood.

This is why I felt this was a great title for today’s blog post

Over the last couple of months, I’ve:

Had a business dispute with my former partner
Started a business (1 More Rep) and then exited from that business
I’m due to appear in County Court because a former client is suing me
Having to liquidate the business, I’m having a dispute with my former partner about
Lost business, time and money because of all the above

It’s never fun.

It isn’t fun right now

This is why I’m writing this out as a kind of self-therapy to process my frustration (especially because I love my morning routine) and also as a means of turning my negative energy into positive value.

Negative sentiment, for me, is more damaging than any money I could spend.

I absolutely hate having negative karma in my life, and whilst I deal with all the above issues, I still continue forward apace in my determination to drive myself towards success.

Let me also tell you about all the issues above:

In the instance of not going to work from the hotel – well, it’s a case of recreating the same/similar environment at home as close as I possibly can to deal with it.

In my case that means this:

After clearing the dinner table, I get on with work.

Yup, on the left, you can see a colander with grapes I’ve just washed, as well as some cashew nuts I’ve just thrown in.

Don’t judge me (but I love it, haha).

In regards to the 430am element with someone commenting ‘epic fail’ – well, I followed up with a response and then somehow Karma intervened:

A good new friend of mine wrote this Facebook post, which was awesome.

With the WhatsApp guy who will ‘fuck me’ it’s actually a useful exercise (once my anger has dissipated).

I’ve asked him to complete the YouTube watch time and subscriber count as he was someone who originally worked on my channel for standard SEO but then said he knew how to achieve monetization.

That hasn’t worked, and we’re now in dispute.

What I’m finding positive in that is that I am thinking about ‘how would I respond if someone starting posting lots of ‘nonsense’ about me online and showering the internet with it.

Well, you fight ‘fire with fire’ and be honest about what’s going on and still keep up with your PR and branding drive.

I.e posting this content, posting on Facebook, sharing your journey and keeping driving forward.

As my notoriety grows, so will people who will seek to take me down.

I’m almost excited by the first person who makes a concerted effort to do a social media take-down because it makes you think about the strength of your brand and how heavily (or not) you have insulated it.

With the Facebook chat about buying a website – well, there’s been a difference of opinion for an affiliate site I’m buying, and ultimately, I’m working to keep both relationships positive.

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I guess for me, the truth in all of this is a couple of core things:

Obstacles, whether you put them in front of you or others do, will always be there. And your drive and momentum will determine your ability to push through them.

As I become, I guess, more experienced within business, I see the nature of my challenges continue to grow – and I believe that the only way to deal with them is to keep driving forward.

This is without mentioning the issues of inner conflict

And herein lies the biggest demon you will ever encounter in your life….

There is one conflict that will always be with you, will go with you everywhere, and can conceivably cause more damage to you than good.

And that’s the dark side of your inner voice.

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My dark side this morning got me snapping at my partner, Strawberry, it got me into writing this blog over an hour later than I should have started

Even writing it now feels extraordinarily tough.

Everything feels wrong about it.

And that, my friends, is probably the most crucial part of all of this: