Attack life.

Some people read an online thread on Quora – or a latest ‘7 steps’ blogpost and assume it can the cure for all of their ails.

This is simply not true, and the only route to greatness begins with personal growth. You mentioned emotions and life in general. So you seem to be a fairly reflective person.

Couple this reflection with MASSIVE action.

In what domain that comes is your choice. I have suffered from relationship problems in my past that damaged my partners and had damaged me. My decision on that basis was to attack my weaknesses. 

Don’t worry that it needs to be tactical and refined. Much like an infant learning to write words having just learnt the alphabet – the important thing is to start and aggressively so.

Be a blunt instrument – it is part of the journey of becoming refined.

For me > this meant googling best selling relationship books and articles. I read these books:

 The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts: Gary D Chapman: 9780802412706: Books

Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus: John Gray: 9780061232053: Books Allan Pease, Barbara Pease: 9780752846194: Books

Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay: A Step-by-Step Guide to Help You Decide Whether to Stay In or Get Out of Your Relationship: Mira Kirshenbaum: 9780452275355: Books

I read countless articles see here >> Google

And I told my friends I WOULD read them – and to hold me accountable if I did not.

And THEN, only then, did I really begin to become closer to understanding the route to my relationship happiness and continued on my journey.

Decide what your blunt instruments will be, whether books, people, courses or otherwise.

And attack attack attack.


What crazy thing can I do full-time in 3 months?

Like Evan Asano I’ve also travelled a bunch 🙂

Here is an alternative suggestion dude:

  • I successfully trained and fought Muay Thai in Rio De Janeiro in Brazil from scratch (with no previous fight experience). I won via TKO in the second round

The video is here:

I actually did this in 7 weeks – and for those 7 weeks I trained 2-4 hours per day in a combination of private and group classes in a professional gym. 6-7 days per week.

This COMPLETELY changed my life and there is nothing superhuman about me I promise you. One thing I do recommend you develop though is this:

Do things that SCARE you. It’s the fastest way to grow. 

So go find something wild. Drop everything and commit yourself to it – you’ll be amazed at what is possible.


This answer was taken from Deepak Shukla’s Quora